Raising teens and motivating teens

Raising teens are no doubt extremely difficult. Want to know the best way to motivate teens? That is one of the most difficult questions to answer because the generation gap makes it hard for adults to connect with teens.

There are many different opinions about how to connect with teens. However, there is one thing that is universally accepted. Most experts agree that the deepest and longest lasting form of motivation is self-motivation. Therefore, the worst thing to do is to push and tell without listening.

For example, if you ask your child to clean their room, will they do it without a reminder? On the other hand, if the child asks you if they can go out on a date and you say yes, but only if the room is cleaned, that room will be cleaned, without reminders. The difference is the teen had motive. The motivation was the result of something they wanted. It was self-motivation.

How can you get them to get good grades, if it is so hard to get them to clean a room? The first thing you need to know is that it is not easy. It is going to require hard work and patience. The worst thing to do is to shove motivation down their throat. It will not work. The best thing to do is to provide strong support and encouragement. Stick to disciplinary consequences when needed, find out their interests, and try to use those interests to guide their actions.

Aristotle once said that "we are what we repeatedly do." The operative word is repeatedly. Teens can stay motivated by choosing to perform certain tasks daily until they become a habit. Adults can help by surrounding teens with as many positive experiences as possible and reminding them repeatedly to stay on track.

Helping teens identify an industry they most likely will enjoy and that pays well, could provide self-motivation.

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  • Discovery motivation to get better grades
  • Understand their destiny and purpose
  • Make the right career choices
  • Develop the habits and social skills needed to succeed

Tips for communicating positively with teens

Parents should try to talk with their teens in healthy interchanges as much as possible. When you need to get your point across, consider a few suggestions.

  1. Begin statement with "I" instead of "you". This removes the judgment tone at the start of the conversation. For example, instead of saying "you didn't ..... " start with "I was surprised that ..... what happened?"
  2. Avoid generalization. Teens will automatically look for exceptions just to prove you wrong. Instead be specific
  3. Stick to one topic at a time. It will be better to drive one topic home at a time instead of a barrage concerns. There will be plenty of time to talk about other concerns. This will help with focus and avoid the possibility of a breakdown in communication.

Remember to be encouraging as much as possible even when you correct unwanted behavior.