Raising teens are no doubt extremely difficult. Want to know the best way to motivate teens? That is one of the most difficult questions to answer because the generation gap makes it hard for adults to connect with teens.
There are many different opinions about how to connect with teens. However, there is one thing that is universally accepted. Most experts agree that the deepest and longest lasting form of motivation is self-motivation. Therefore, the worst thing to do is to push and tell without listening.
For example, if you ask your child to clean their room, will they do it without a reminder? On the other hand, if the child asks you if they can go out on a date and you say yes, but only if the room is cleaned, that room will be cleaned, without reminders. The difference is the teen had motive. The motivation was the result of something they wanted. It was self-motivation.
How can you get them to get good grades, if it is so hard to get them to clean a room? The first thing you need to know is that it is not easy. It is going to require hard work and patience. The worst thing to do is to shove motivation down their throat. It will not work. The best thing to do is to provide strong support and encouragement. Stick to disciplinary consequences when needed, find out their interests, and try to use those interests to guide their actions.
Aristotle once said that "we are what we repeatedly do." The operative word is repeatedly. Teens can stay motivated by choosing to perform certain tasks daily until they become a habit. Adults can help by surrounding teens with as many positive experiences as possible and reminding them repeatedly to stay on track.
Helping teens identify an industry they most likely will enjoy and that pays well, could provide self-motivation.
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Tips for communicating positively with teens
Parents should try to talk with their teens in healthy interchanges as much as possible. When you need to get your point across, consider a few suggestions.
Remember to be encouraging as much as possible even when you correct unwanted behavior.